There are so many ways a passport bro can fuck it up in seconds, and abort the future like a hoe after Frosh Week.
In this brief article, I’ll cover a few of the main passport bro mistakes I’ve personally witnessed; some I’ve lived, but thankfully I haven’t lived them all.
Table of Contents
Reading my series on the passport bro movement is a great place to do your research:
- How to Become a Passport Bro
- Mistakes Every Passport Bro Should Avoid At All Costs (you are here)
- The Pros and Cons of the Passport Bro Lifestyle
And then of course, there’s guide after guide about making money online in the most creative ways:
Explore salaries for common online jobs, find an entry-level remote job, design and sell merch online with no inventory, learn about dropshipping, start a blog or your own online community site, and learn how to make money in an absolute emergency. And that’s only the beginning.
Passport Bro Mistakes
1. Bring Them Back to Your Home Country
Pop quiz, hot shot:
What makes women living within developing countries traditional and conservative? Their traditional conservative family, social network, laws, and culture.
What happens if you take that away and plant them into the cultural void that is the Western “modernity” psyop? They may start to believe in it.
What makes foreigners enticing to the opposite sex? They’re exotic, diverse, and have a fresh perspective. Foreign men are often perceived as financially viable in a relationship.
With great power comes great responsibility; if you can steer the situation, which would you rather have the power of attraction a foreigner possesses –you, or your possible mate, future wife, love of your life?
Take a nice girl from South America, Southeast Asia, or Eastern Europe to the West and run the risk she’ll be Westernized within six months. If she’s the traditional woman you think she is, removing her from her family and support circle is probably a bad idea.
Age is a factor, too. The younger they are, the less they may know about what they want from you now, tomorrow, or life in general.
They’re still learning what matters at 22, or 26, even 30 years of age, which makes her subject to indoctrination because she’s being pulled into the West in her formative, important years; she’s going to want to know her new, current realities outside of your influence.
Wherever she looks in the West, she’ll be fed bait, lies and sexual advances in ways she’s never experienced before.
Don’t take my word for it, Filipina Pea is incredibly self aware on the risk of transplanting a healthy flower into the wiles of the West.
Building out your life back home with her will mean new friends, job, coworkers, social settings, machines, idle hands, a sense of alienation, and all the trappings of popular culture she can absorb to fit in. All without her lifelong peers to keep her grounded in her own culture.
In traditional female terms “strong” usually means “resilient”.
In Western female terms, “strong” typically manifests as irritable and argumentative –and “independent” translates into “single”. Both terms are sold off as a net positive.
If you take your woman to your home country, she’s likely to be Rick-rolled or intoxicated.
2. Find a Girl with Great English
The better their English, the more likely it is that they’ve absorbed a shit ton of Western movies, TV shows, blogs, Cardi B, and social media trends. By now, you can guarantee they’ve seen the Barbie movie, as an example.
Western propaganda and third-wave feminism are a social contagion that travels through the English language. If their English is so-so, none of that propaganda is as easily absorbed by them.
3. Social Media Influence
If you’re going to Asia, I hear you may want to start in Vietnam.
Social media is a cancer for meeting women, and I’ve only got one key criticism of the Philippines; I rarely see a girl without a phone in her right hand –even if she isn’t using it, it’s in her hand, ready like a crack pipe. Watch long enough and she’ll open it up, swipe icons, do nothing, and close the screen again, every 3 minutes. They can’t help themselves.
The local cafe and bar scene are often a joke. Glowing faces for miles, nobody looks up. No room for destiny or casual glances with anyone below thirty. Many ladies wear masks to hide their face, they don’t care about the virus.
Their next “drug” war should be on social media, because holy shit. At first it was nice, while courting my ex-wife she could drop the accent and knew all my references in conversation. She made a great virtual assistant and friend before and after we met. She wrote posts on this blog. But for a country with 72% of its population on social media, the rot is real.
I didn’t consider how social media addicted Filipinos are –great as a blogger, not so great looking for a relationship with any substance at all whatsoever.
I met my ex-wife through online work, I thought it was a modern romance story. I was spoken for when I arrived, so I didn’t explore the dating scene. But had I known how social media addicted Filipinos are, I may have opted for Vietnam.
If you’re going to Asia, you may want to avoid Americanized or developed countries.
They’re potentially worse than Americans, as far as social media influence goes –girls in developing countries trying to keep up with girls in developed countries, only heaven knows why they do this to themselves.
If you know anyone who had a good run dating in the Philippines, ask them what year it was and how old they were at the time. It’s all downhill from there.
4. Start a Passport Bro Social Media Account
Social media removes your power in the most unexpected ways.
Following up on the last point, all women handle being in love differently. Traditional women are protective of the family they want to have. And some will hyper-analyse your social media footprint with a fine tooth comb. With CIA-like focus, their research could span decades.
Documenting your single life before you meet the right woman leaves you open to online interactions that can cause problems down the line. Even if a complete stranger hearts a social media post 3 years before meeting your main, it can drop eggshells with the girl you like the most.
Or worse, she’ll just assume you’re a fuck boy and not take you seriously from the get-go. Women love to read between the lines, even if they’re not reading it right.
Buy an external hard drive for your exploits, avoid social media because you can’t control the interactions.
Start a blog instead, you actually own that –you’re going to be a better gatekeeper if you have to actually sit down and think about what you’re producing in advance, and associating social profiles to comments is optional. I deleted Facebook in 2017 and I still have no regrets.
5. Spoil Your Girl
At your own peril, be the try-hard foreigner who buys affection through expensive experiences –what could go wrong?
Give her an allowance like a spoiled teenager, regular visits to the salon, weekend trips island hopping, fly her folks in to wherever you are on a regular, over-tip when you go for dinner, and give her shiny baubles often just because. Always be sure to comment on how cheap everything is in her country.
Feed the wolf inside her red meat regularly, right off the cuff.
Ride that white guilt (if you’re white) and show your poor lady love what she’s been missing her whole life.
Get your woman to expect these things in perpetuity, set a precedent for excess and teach her that love means money. So when yours runs out, she’ll find love anew that will not be you. Or you’ll just fry her brain and she’ll turn into a broken fembot.
Money destroys relationships, and it’s a superpower most aren’t born understanding. My most profitable blogging years were the ones we argued the most. Like, humiliating tantrums in public level social retardation.
Observe what kind of lifestyle she comes from and tweak it. Don’t tear it down and rebuild it. And don’t buy land too fast, learn what kind of woman she is and has been through how she argues with you.
6. Let Her Freak Flag Fly
After years of passport bro meets spring break level degeneracy in Thailand and increasing my body count into the triple digits, I thought I’d need to settle down with a girl who had a little sexual experience under her belt to keep up with me.
No, I am not proud of my behavior at the time. It’s gross, degenerate, and un-Christian. In hindsight I see how it seriously fucked my life in the present. I chose wrong, based on the wrong morals. Tate would kick my ass.
In my line of thinking at the time, I actually valued a small handful of red flags as opposed to avoiding them, I was arrogant and naive. Red flags like a particular tattoo, current friend group at the time we met, a type of ex lover, and stories I heard from her friends and siblings in private.
I also forwent examining the fact that her family was matriarchal, even though I thought I was smart for living beside her folks for a couple years to get to know her family while courting her. She was raised by nannies, not her mother, and the dad was a polite pushover and made less money than the alpha mom –who’d one day become my mother in-law.
Can’t comment further, divorce is one hell of a drug.
7. Focus on Your Night Game
Drinking takes the edge off, and you flew a billion miles to the other side of the planet to assume a fuck ton of risk to find a nurturing mate. No pressure.
Maybe you’re sad and alone. Maybe it’s been a year abroad and culture shock is setting in. Maybe you didn’t find the love mecca you sought out, yet.
And harpies and ghouls, well trained in the verse of foreign dick and treachery await to sexually satisfy your needs at your local watering hole. Live in a place long enough, and you see them go home with fresh meat every night, sometimes they go home twice.
These girls, on local terms, are past their prime. There’s something locals know that you don’t. It’s usually a case of the crazy eyes. They might be hot to you, but you’re green behind the ears and you don’t know shit. Often, they’re married to a foreigner who’s absent for one reason or another.
If you are strong in your night game abroad, it’s likely because you were being groomed by a harpie, free samples at Costco. Nothing to be proud of.
Videos of passport bros on TikTok and mainstream news are cringe as fuck.
Being good at night game as a foreigner isn’t a notch in your belt. It’s often a charity with hopes for personal gain. If you meet girls at bars.
Hot girls at bars will light up your ‘Grams, though. Take note, clout chasers.
Focus on your day game. I met a nice lady taking my blood donation at the Red Cross, for example (Red Cross girls man, totally hot, and they got a stethoscope).
You’ll figure it out, but quality lay in your day game, not your night game.
I have been GHB date-rape drugged enough times in a decade to build a resistance, in Asia. It’s only a matter of time. Sooner or later every man meets that welcome wagon. And it’s usually polite talkative dudes you talk to doing it, for monetary gain. It’s rarely sexually motivated. Be vigilant.
8. Beat Your Girlfriend
In the Philippines, you hear it all. Domestic abuse, abductions, among other awful things, are also “traditional” for locals. Nasty things men do to women and girls are more common, and women often suffer in silence.
Live somewhere long enough, and you might start to seek justification for bad behavior because it’s the Wild West. Some countries are a hundred years behind the West, socially. They’re “old school”. Local men can get away with quite a bit.
Don’t.
Culture clashes, bar harpies, gold diggers –the methodical provocation that might await you– is never worth breaking the law, harming a woman, and allowing the wolf take over.
Even if she’s a diabolical gold digging cunt.
Walk away.
Especially in the current global economy with inflation, women are financially hurting and have cunning Wild West ways of dealing with it.
I’ve lived in one place for awhile, and recently became single again. This compelled me to put CCTV in my house, even in my bedroom, as I am a man of means. Some girls are literally asking for it, for their own monetary gain. False claims are a real concern for passport bros when $600 USD per month income is considered rich.
Don’t get baited into violence by harpies to be extorted after the fact. Don’t forget the home team advantage; you’ll suffer the full extent of the law, the local men fucking hate you, and prisons abroad are worse than the comfortable West, by comparison.
There are no educational degrees or internet access (or mattresses in many cases) in prisons in the developing world. You may not even get soap to drop. They’ll go in dry.
9. Rub Another Man’s Rhubarb
Go ahead, I dare you. Local or foreigner.
There’s a girl across the bar sitting with another man, a local, she’s giving you the fuck me eyes, she craves the foreign dick and it’s clear. She’s embarrassing her man.
Or there’s a “liberated woman” at the bar with a boyfriend, who’s hitting on your girlfriend in the key of lesbian, trying to get your girl to go with them so they can take her home and do the dirty.
Rage.
Never be the dick doing this shit. I saw a Thai girl beat down an 18 year old white girl, and when her young scrawny boyfriend stood in to stop it, the Thai boyfriend threw a machete into his chest. I got the movie style blood spray on my face.
Yeah, that got dark fast.
Don’t fuck with local men, if you can avoid it. If anyone fucks with you, deal with it diplomatically. You are not a member of the winning team.
When it’s a foreigner, I can see how that’s a real pisser. Maybe it costs them some teeth. I can’t say one way or the other. Consider CCTV and undo the fine work of his orthodontist.
Wild West, right? If he’s got the same passport and you’re both off country..
10. Be Broke or Unfit
Running out of money, or stamina, because you’re a fat ass, or a bad planner, is never worthy of the lifestyle nor is it manly. Be better.
This entire blog is about making money online, mostly. So you’re in luck on that front. As for not being a fat ass, some L-Carnitine and resistence bands should put you in the right direction, as they did me.
Being fit opens doors with both men and women, don’t fucking ignore it.
Heading to the Philippines? I know I didn’t sell the PH very well, but I live here and I still like it. I even made new humans with a Filipina. Maybe I’m trying to keep out the non-believers. Read my guide, or check out this Youtube playlist about laws and such from my friend The Filipina Pea.
I couldn’t have landed in a more pristine place, buying land is cheap. Just don’t do it for a hoe. I didn’t.Â
2 comments
mike, i appreciate you sharing. upon discovering your blog and channel, and considering our similar ages, i’ve come to realize how much we have in common. personally, i prefer casual dating and sticking to good ol’ sally at the bars, as the current financial and emotional risks associated with legal and long-term commitments seem too high for men like us. the issue of phone addiction you mentioned is a genuine concern, and people are unaware of its impact. it’s advisable to distance yourself from such surroundings. when you prioritize your own goals and values, you emit a positive energy that those around you can perceive. however, in order to fully experience this, it is crucial to liberate yourself from the grasp of social media and focus on building yourself. focus and adapt to the current landscape we live in. genuine women come around when you don’t think of them.
Yeah, the phone thing is absolutely brutal; I see it all day long every day, women on the side of the road walking on the sidewalk, shopping, sitting on the bus, sitting in church, while driving a scooter or sitting on the back as a passenger –basically any and all dead time is occupied by scrolling. Sometimes I can see what they’re looking at, and they’re just scrolling the home screen searching for their next dose of crap.
I agree about building oneself up and walking away from vapid phone addicts. Just remember to always look up; serendipity still exists.
Thanks for swinging by and sharing your thoughts, Josh.